Chasing butterflies or investing in a bee hive?

As a newborn, when you first laid eyes on your mother, you discovered love. Growing up, you realize that love isn’t only limited to your family. There are several kinds. And each and every one takes up a separate place in your heart. 

With age, you know that you can adore your Mom & Dad, love your siblings, get along pretty well with your friends, admire your teachers and laugh endlessly with your cousins.

Through my 25 years on this planet, I came to a point where I encountered an unconditional and an insatiable love. It was towards my niece and nephew. It was a brand new type, something that comes from within you and moves you immensely. It felt as if my heart has swollen, gotten bigger to give them room inside it.

Yet, the “love” that people always talk about seems to be a constant quest.
We all worry about ending up alone, miserable.
We all fear that we might miss the train. And we all regret having let go at a certain point in time.

But one question remains. And this is how I like to put it.
Would you rather chase butterflies or invest in a bee hive?

Butterflies elude you the more you chase them. However, it is an indescribable feeling when a butterfly lands on your palm and gives you that tingling sensation. And only there and then, you can admire its beauty and colors. But how long will it stay? Will it even ever come?
Many people wait for ages to find that one person who can charge their electricity and who can chain them chemically.

Others, on the other hand, prefer to build a bee hive. For it is far beyond organized. It represents stability and structure. And for me, it symbolizes the relationship that is overruled by the mind.

But why do people decide to go with their minds as they get more mature? Maybe because they were hurt so many times and they had to pick up their pieces every time their hearts got involved. Perhaps they learnt that butterflies will fly away and all that lingers are memories of emotions and colors.

Relationships don’t abide by any rules. And love definitely knows no boundaries. So my take on this is, that it’s okay to have weak knees around a particular person, and it is normal to admit that they make others look pale comparing to him/her. And it is completely fine to let your mind wander all day and night. IF, and only IF, you also make his/her feet feel like Jello, IF you are the only one they see and IF dreaming about you makes them want to sleep.

Life is full of mediocre things. Love should NOT be one of them.

Photo by Randa Al Merehby.